The Fertility Lingo

Often times I go into my Gynaecologist’s office with pen and paper to write down a lot of ‘big grammar’ …lol. These words can be confusing and thus I come home and Google them to know what they mean I decided to Google for some more Fertility Terminology and here is what I came up with. I hope they are as useful to you as they were for me.

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Blastocyst

This is a fertilized egg awaiting implantation.

Conception
This is the successful union of a sperm and an ovum(egg).

Corpus luteum
Thus is a structure that develops in the ovary and secretes progesterone, which is vital to maintain a uterine environment capable of supporting pregnancy. When the corpus luteum stops functioning, and if a fertilized ovum does not embed in the uterine lining and the placenta begins producing hormones of its own, hormone levels quickly decrease and menstruation begins.

Cycle 
A cycle is one complete menstrual cycle. Most women menstruate on a 21 to 35 day cycle. During a 28-day cycle, ovulation will typically occur on day 14 and in a 35-day cycle, ovulation may occur on day 21.

Fertilization 
This takes place when the egg is being penetrated by the sperm and the resulting fusion of genetic material that develops into an embryo.

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Follicle
It is a fluid-filled sac in the ovary that sustains the developing egg, and from which the egg is released during ovulation. The follicle is stimulated to release the ovum by a hormone called FSH (Follicle Stimulating Hormone), which is made by the pituitary gland.

Follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH)
You can determine this via a blood test and it is a hormone produced by the pituitary gland. It is necessary to achieve pregnancy because it stimulates the maturation of a follicle (within the ovary), allowing for the process of ovulation.

hCG
Human chorionic gonadotropin (or hCG) is the hormone that prolongs the lifespan of the corpus luteum as well as stimulates production of progesterone, another hormone essential to maintain the pregnancy. This is also the hormone pregnancy tests (blood and urine) detect.

Implantation
When the fertilized egg (blastocyst) settles into the thick uterine lining (endometrium). This occurs approximately 6-10 days after conception.

LH Surge
The increase in luteinizing hormone in your urine. You are most likely to become pregnant if you have intercourse within 24-48 hours after you detect your LH surge, with 36 hours marking your peak fertility time.

Luteinizing hormone (LH)
A female hormone secreted by the pituitary gland, necessary to regulate ovarian function.

Menstruation/Menstrual Cycle

The monthly cycle of changes in the ovaries and the lining of the uterus (endometrium), starting with the preparation of an egg for fertilization. When the follicle of the prepared egg in the ovary breaks, it is released for fertilization and ovulation occurs. Unless pregnancy occurs, the cycle ends with the shedding of part of the endometrium, which is menstruation.

Mittelschmerz 

This means a dull abdominal pain occurring at the time of ovulation, attributed to the presence of free blood in the peritoneal cavity from the ruptured ovarian follicle.

Ovary
One of the two female reproductive organs in which eggs are formed.

Ovulation
The release of the egg (ovum) from the ovary. Ovulation usually occurs approximately 14 days before the next menstrual period is due.

Ovulation Test, OPK, Ovulation Predictor Tests
A home ovulation test detects a woman’s LH-Surge – or the time a woman ovulates, allowing a determination of when conception is most likely to take place (period of peak fertility).

Pregnancy Test, HPT, hCG Home Pregnancy Test
Pregnancy tests detect in urine the hormone your body makes during pregnancy: hCG (human chorionic gonadotropin). The amount of pregnancy hormone increases as pregnancy progresses. The FIRST RESPONSE® Test is so sensitive that most women have enough hCG to be detected as early as three days before their expected period, which is four days before any other at-home test.

Progesterone
One of the female sex hormones, which is produced by the ovary and placenta. Progesterone prepares the lining of the uterus, for implantation of a fertilized egg, and helps maintain the pregnancy.

Sperm
The male reproductive cell. Healthy male sperm can survive approximately 72 hours in a woman’s body.

Uterus
A hollow, pear-shaped muscular organ where implantation takes place and the foetus develops.

Vagina
The passage leading from the uterus to the outside of the female body.

Zygote
The single cell formed by when a sperm fertilizes an egg.

Now in case I have missed anything out you consider to be basic words, please feel free to send in your comments so I can find out. I also have a list of acronyms I will share in my next post. Feel free to share…enjoy!

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Medium, Seer or Prophet 2

Unfortunately the world is filled with these ones and we need to just open our eyes to be able to recognize them before we are trapped in their evil snare. The bible is filled with ways to discern who a false prophet is; it cautions us Christians about such falseness. Christ said in Matthew 24:23-27(read up) “false messiahs and false prophets will appear and perform great signs and wonders to deceive, if possible, even the elect”.  Peter counsels in 2Peter 3:3 that “knowing this first: that scoffers will come in the last days, walking according to their own lusts” and also in 2 Peter 2:1 he says“there were also false prophets among the people, just as there will be false teachers among you. They will secretly introduce destructive heresies, even denying the sovereign Lord who bought them bringing swift destruction on themselves”.

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Miserably, many will follow their depraved conduct and will bring the way of truth into disrepute. In their greed these false prophets and teachers will exploit you with fabricated stories of visions seen concerning you and proffer solutions that you will have to buy from them to set you free. Paul restated again in 2 Corinthians 14:29 that “prophets should speak” but that “the others should weigh carefully what is said because time will tell whether what they say is true or not”. Before you go on falling for a doctrine hook line and sinker, try and hold it against God’s words and see if it flies. What is their take on the word of God or on salvation itself, does it come in line with what the bible says? What does your prophet say about the son of God, Jesus? Does he pray in the name of Christ? Does he ask you to go to a particular “holy ground” before you can receive deliverance? How about evangelism, does your prophet preach Jesus as the only Savior of the world or includes that you need to accept his own Shepard too?

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How do they live, it beats me when Christians go to prophets who have more than one wife for solutions. Or prophets who tell you they need to sleep with you as part of the deliverance process? Some even say that they need to fondle your breast as there lays the demon troubling you, as it happened to a good friend. Her aunty took her to see a prophet and as he was praying with her kneeling before him, she is heavily endowed and all of a sudden the prophet grabs her breasts and told her the demons tormenting you are in there; in shock she stares at him but prophet was oblivious as he had his eyes closed, she brought him back to reality with a slap when she noticed his privates bulging and walked out on them both. Sadly a lot have been raped in the guise of deliverance some of these are even on Youtube just search for Nigerian false prophets. The book of first John is so apt when it says that “Whoever has been born of God does not sin, for His seed remains in him; and he cannot sin, because he has been born of God. In this the children of God and the children of the devil are manifest: Whoever does not practice righteousness is not of God, nor is he who does not love his brother.”

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A lot of these prophets out there also size you up and gives you the message you want to hear. Like my friend who went to see a prophet for her son, she was not wearing a ring and the lady prophet exclaims, “I know why you are not married yet! Your destiny is being blocked and you need to do this and that to get delivered”. Some tell you the amount required to complete your deliverance! She was dumbfounded as she has been married almost 16 years and has five kids to show for it. She picked her bag and left immediately after telling the prophet that she was a married woman with kids. In shame the prophet could say nothing but watch her leave.

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Most importantly, when you meet a false prophet and his doctrine does not square up with the word of God. I tell you, flee before you are dragged into an abyss of extortion, abuse, manipulation and even witchcraft. The end times are here and the bible warns us already of the influx in millions of such false men of God. Ephesians 1: 13 after all told you that “In Him you also trusted, after you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation; in whom also, having believed, you were sealed with the Holy Spirit of promise”. That is a great assurance, never entertain such people in your house nor allow them to mess with your mind or way of thinking. Never allow them to pour into you the spirit of fear like most of them do, saying without them you might never be delivered as they are the ultimate solution; that is from the pits of hell.

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I pray we will not fall as pawns in the hands of such evil prophets of wickedness. What is your story? Ever had an encounter with such people? Share with me, I would love to read your experiences, your inputs and your encouragements. Selah

 

Medium, seer or prophet???

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‘The Spirit world is not happy you are here, they say the minute you got here they knew you will be delivered. Your childlessness is as a result of someone punishing you for past sins. On your part, you have offended enemies within, your husband’s part it is promises broken made to a jilted lover. Your husband’s maternal family also wants him childless,’ these were the words of Prophet X as narrated by Atinuke, a childhood friend.
She continued her narration, ‘when I entered the shack I said to myself, what would bring me here if not for the respect and love I have for my Aunt? She had been pestering me for months on end to see her prophet who can solve all problems. As I entered with my sassy dress and all, I was accosted by a rude ‘omo ijo’ (church member) to cover my head immediately or stand the risk of ejection. The look of disdain I gave him made him relax and leave him as I was getting ready to give him a few words of what I thought of him but stopped in my tracks when I saw my Aunt’s pleading eyes… I mellowed…lol. She said, ‘je ki a kujo mo nkan ti a ba wa’. Meaning let us face what brought us here.

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The prophet soon came out and after all pleasantries; he looked at me from head to toe. He looked at my Brazilian human hair, my makeup, my well manicured nails and my painted toe nails and immediately went into the spirit and said, ‘ for us to do this work effectively and successful I need to discard all foreign things from my body, meaning the hair, the makeup and the nail polish, no acrylic! He then went on to do some spiritual gimmicks (please watch Yoruba African magic or Yoruba plays on YouTube so you get what I mean). He started singing a song of victory he proclaimed he has seen the solution since his own prophecy work was different from others who will ask for money, he mentioned all he said above, about the spirit world he just travelled to and gave some Psalms to read in water, to be used to bath and drink and also white fasting (fast where you don’t take pepper or oil, I think) and to top it all go to a certain place called the mountain of deliverance, he said, ‘after doing all these, all perpetrators will be revealed to you and you will be delivered from their evil machinations.’

Atinuke stared into my eyes after narrating all that, in her eyes I saw a woman who was at some cross road, desperate and didn’t know what to believe anymore while also wondering if she could do it, she confessed she had done the fasting, and tried reading the psalms but got overwhelmed at reading about 10 psalms in each bucket of water her and her husband uses to bath and also every cup of water they drank as directed, so just decided to fast and pray. Why did she come to me today? Her aunt is on her neck to go to the ‘ori oke’ mountain of deliverance and she has come with justifications, asking me won’t it just be like going to redeemed camp to pray? I paused and I asked if you get there what are you to do? She said pray, get a man child to get you some holy water from the rock and drink, it is a place where even you and your husband cannot stand together but separately as women and men had both their sections. I then asked, if you go and get pregnant afterwards, on testimony day in your Pentecostal church, will you say, ‘Praise the Lord with me, I went to Ori-oke and got deliverance and this is my baby to show for it?

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She was silent, an awkward silence and I narrated another story to her story, I had been forced to go to such too and the woman prophet this time said what she saw was that I have been trying to get married for years and some forces where making this impossible for me, so I need to come for deliverance, stay in her church for 7 days, fasting none stop, they call it ‘awe biribiri’, and after that say yes to the first man I see when I get home, my friend who took me was mortified, full of shame, I smiled, to humor her I asked the woman, what if it was my married neighbor I saw? She said it means it is he God has chosen for me, and I will have to accept it. After grilling her for a while just to waste her time and also to make sure she had no way out; I told her I had been married four years! She was shocked, afraid and didn’t know what to say. I got up in disgust and left. You see, she has been doing this in the past and got away with it, so she thought obviously, since she is not wearing a ring (which I forgot to wear that day as matter of fact) she had seen new meat to slaughter, since she also told me her solution will cost me money but in the end I will come out victorious.

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What gives people around you the right to expose you to such spiritual entities in the name of helping out? What gives them the right to pressure you? How come you get pressured when you claim you are a child of God? What gives the so called prophets ability to see such visions (as some of them can be spot on), they tell you the story of your life and you marvel, this must be an oracle from God, remember the passage where Jesus said false prophets will arise in my name? When you let them in, they keep the power over your life, take the place of God and in no time you have silently been drawn to idolatry and spiritual adultery! You do not need anyone to tell you who you are in Christ! If your situation persists it is to glorify Himself not man. There was always a good reason in the bible for women who had delays. Hannah had delays just to birth a Prophet as powerful as Samuel, Elizabeth had delays just to birth a great fore runner as John, Rachel had delays and she birthed Joseph. BE PATIENT AND HOLD ON.
I will tell you what these prophets do, while some of them may mean no harm, some sow the anxiety seed into your life. In Atinuke’s case, she is in dilemma, to do or not to do, go or
do not go? Her husband is vehemently against it and she wants to go behind his back as the prophet says, it is the spirits hardening his heart against the solution. Atinuke’s blood pressure has hit the roof; she has lost sleep, worrying over nothing and uses sleeping tabs thinking of this issue. The non issue that Christ has given you victory for over thousands of years ago! All He wants from us is to hold on, fix our eyes on Him the Author and Finisher of our Faith!
What happens if I don’t do this ‘solution’? Absolutely nothing, for we are God’s children and have victory in Him alone. Do not let any prophet deceive you. Whose report will you believe? Read Deuteronomy 13:1-5 just see what it says here,
• ‘(1) If there arises among you a prophet or a dreamer of dreams, and he gives you a sign or a wonder, (2) and the sign or the wonder comes to pass, of which he spoke to you, saying, Let us go after other gods‟ – which you have not known – ,and let us serve them,(3) you shall not listen to the words of that prophet or that dreamer of dreams, for the Lord your God is testing you to know whether you love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul. (4) You shall walk after the Lord your God and fear Him, and keep His commandments and obey His voice; you shall serve Him and hold fast to Him. (5) But that prophet or that dreamer of dreams shall be put to death, because he has spoken in order to turn you away from the Lord your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt from the house of bondage, to entice you from the way in which the Lord your God commanded you to walk. So you shall put away the evil from your midst.

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SELAH!

 

The Longest wait ever…Adebisi has boarded and landed! ? Or has she?

The fourteenth day came eventually; I had not started bleeding like I read in hoards of internet research so I was hopeful that it was going to be a positive one. It was our first IVF and I always prayed that when we eventually did it, it would work out in our favour and we got a lot of confirmations and mini miracles along the way, so we had high hopes and I had pregnancy symptoms which they told us could happen with some of the drugs I was still taking anyway, I believed I was pregnant.
We got to the hospital way early with our sample as requested and after collecting our samples we sat in the waiting room for just a few minutes which I thought was a whole day. Just as the Doctor called us in and I got up, I staggered a bit in dizziness as the fear was just too much. We sat in his office and I refused to look at his face, for some reason I had to look for something in my bag, on my phone or on the wall of the Doctor’s office! LoL. He asked if I had seen any blood etc and I said no to all, he finally said, ‘it is well. We are sorry to inform you that this cycle didn’t work out. I held my breath for a few minutes in a haze, I couldn’t hear anything anymore as my husband and the Doctor spoke, all I know was like I was suffocating and gasping for air as if I was drowning in the sea of tears gushing out of me. They didn’t even know I was crying until they heard the sniffs, snorts and saw a wet tissue! If you remember the song, ‘cry me a river… The guy wrote it with me in mind as I cried, I tried smiling letting them know I was okay, but the gasps and tears didn’t stop, it just kept coming. He told us to wait a few more days, and that if my period doesn’t start, we should do another pregnancy test and a scan and with that we left.

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Walking out of the office I met another lady with her eyes swollen coming out, we looked at each other with consoling looks, said nothing and left our separate ways. That day was the darkest, deepest, saddest day of my life. My husband just held me till we got home, we prayed for peace at home and he stayed with me throughout not going back to work.
Consequently, I sank into a bleak state of despair and depression, bursting into tears at the slightest provocations, for example, if I saw a mother cuddling her child I cried, whether in life or on TV, if I see a pregnant woman I cried, everything made me cry. When I thought will I ever have a child? Was IVF really my only option? Where is God in all this? I cried and cried some more. I was cry baby, took that award from Kate Henshaw. Lol… And as I cried I ate, entered every supermarket I came across and bought chocolates, sweets and ate. Everything I saw that came across my nose, I sniffed and ate. I couldn’t really tell anyone so it was tough, especially when my husband had to travel for work and sorts. I never got any form of counseling from the clinic so I didn’t even know I was entitled to this as the Clinic just stopped communicating at one point. (This was more of my perception as I later was told the doctor actually tried getting in touch but my phones were off as I zeroed off from the world).
It took me months to get over what I consider a loss, as I felt it was a baby I had and lost; though all my pregnancy tests which I overdid anyway came negative. I immersed myself in work and the word and gradually started coming out of it; I started an exercise regime to lose the weight I packed on and stopped using the folic acid, cleared my drawers of the remaining injections and moved on. I say it again; it is good for the husband to be a great support and I thank God for mine as he was just so supportive, encouraging and loving at this period. This brought us even more closely together and it is helping our relationship till date. While I am not looking forward to another roller coaster with the IVF Clinic, I am exploring other options and praying knowing that with God all things are possible. THE END

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To Adebisi, I leave this word, as I know what you have gone through…He says NONE shall cast their young before time nor be barren in the land. Notice the underlined NONE, that includes you, we shall not be barren in the land. So fix your eyes on Jesus, the Author and Finisher of your faith. To my readers, remember to share and encourage others; feel free to add your stories and experiences as well. Bless.

How did your IVF go? Adebisi’s beginning…

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If you ask Adebisi she will tell you IVF is not something she wishes on her enemy. She gave me a recount of what happened to her during her procedure nothing extra ordinary you might say but to those who have been there and done that, it is extra ordinary indeed.

IVF was suggested after our second year marriage seeing a doctor in Ikeja then, I thought he was speaking Greek as like a typical Nigerian Christian I rejected everything reject-able, permit the word! We waited another year and I got anxious and couldn’t wait to get started when a friend did hers and it was a success. I was thrown aback when I got a large carton of syringes, needs and injections, as I dread needles, I literally started having heart palpitations as my husband noticing my trepidation patted my hands during the injection training which I went through in a fog.

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Truthfully IVF was the last thing I felt would be associated with me, I couldn’t even see myself having my name and IVF in a sentence, but after trying all sorts, opening my private part to different doctors and enough pokes here and there, feeling raped by their instruments and gadgets I just resign myself to getting excited about the treatment as finally I felt we were moving forward and closer to our goal to be parents.

I read a lot on the IVF procedure but nothing prepared me for the emotional roller coaster and pain, yes pain, they won’t tell you that at the fancy clinics but get ready!! The first day we started the drugs and hubby said a prayer, I was so bold at mixing up the shots etc, got the swabs ready and all, and it was time to give! I started crying, first it was sobs, then some audible cries which turned to a full blown wail, I was bawling with snorts and all, thank God we started 15minutes before time as you had to get the timing right. We went through the motion of hubby comforting me to encouraging me and then a quick decision that he will administer the injections which I quickly agreed to and it was given on time amidst screams and gnashing of teeth. I kept talking to God, you didn’t promise me this much pain, or stress or sadness. Fruitfulness is surely much better than what we were experiencing here Lord, don’t even get me started on the expenses of the procedure and the medications.

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This physical part of the IVF quickly became a routine for me, apart from the soreness and a few itch on the injection area, which turned to ‘areas’ as injections were added, as if that was not enough; dealing with the emotional highs and lows that accompanied the treatment was a great challenge for me, I was battered emotionally by the injections, and carried around the very heavy feeling of dejection that I couldn’t explain. All I could do was ask for grace…

To be continued…

WOULD YOU BE MY GODMOTHER?

Last year was a great year for Lamide, but according to her it could have been a better one if she had gotten pregnant with her twins. I share her story with you all today. It is a great testimony of God’s grace.

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Lamide underwent IVF in August and it failed. She decided not to go for IVF again. The whole procedure was a bad emotional roller coaster,’ she says (you can say that again). The IVF Blues came and went. We kept talking through it all as I knew she needed the emotional support, and month after month, we spoke she would tell me when the red dragon* surfaces, sometimes we cry, sometimes we laugh about it and just let go.

I went to church one day and Pastor spoke about us fixing our eyes on Jesus, I shared this with her and she told me about a lady who gave a great testimony at the Redeemed Camp who waited twenty years and just had triplets. She said amidst tears the lady told her story of several IVF treatments, miscarriages, two stillbirths and when she was 45 years she just gave up and let it all go. She wanted to live rather than die of heartbreak. And suddenly, God appeared for her when she didn’t even have her mind set on it. She came with two adorable girls and one boy-HER TRIPLETS!!

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Lamide never stopped talking about her embryo transfer; she still believed she had two babies in her. However, with help and prayers she let go and let God. She threw out all her remaining IVF treatment and immersed herself in work and church. Apart from the occasional regrets that the IVF hospital didn’t call her back for follow up and all, we never really dwelt on it.

Her hubby decided to surprise her with a wonderful Christmas holiday to get over all the stress of the year and rejuvenate, which she told me was swell, great bonding and couple time (wink wink). They had God time too, prayed and handed the whole issue to God and that was it. Of course they came with pictures to show they had fun and loads of shopping which was like great medicine for Lamide. Which girl won’t love all that spoiling!!!

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 They got back the first week in January and work started, we were all busy and all, never really had time to talk until I spoke to her just last week and she said her period had started again with the usual delay tactics. I told her to put her mind off it, and over the weekend we chatted over BBM and I asked if the red dragon* had arrived, she said no, and I jokingly told her to take a home pregnancy test, she said she was just not ready for another late period craziness and trepidation nor fret over it.

So we left it at that until she sent me a picture this morning stating – would you be my God mother? I didn’t get it until we spoke later and she told me the home test was positive! Amidst the screams she was able to chip in the gist of how she decided to stop by the pharmacy and buy a digital pregnancy test kit, which she used in the office and she found out that she was indeed pregnant. The kit told her she was 4.5 weeks pregnant and counting back it was around the time they went for their vacation, we both giggled as we said almost together, ‘vacation paid off indeed!!’

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Now how wonderful God can be all the time? He made all things beautiful in His time for her. No one knows yet, so I am honoured she gave me permission to share this here, though I am not using her real name anyway…lol…God heard her in all areas He saw the tears the hurt the pain of the IVF and He gave her a perfect gift just at the time she let go.

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When you let go and let God, He takes the lead and blesses you with more than you can ever imagine. Now, I see my God as this perfect Gentleman who won’t barge into your life until you allow Him in. Never run your life as if you can, just let go and God will take the lead and bless you with blessings you cannot begin to think or imagine.

Lamide has been in this race for 11 years now, God was waiting for her to let go and the moment she did, He held her hands and is leading the way to fruitfulness. I love this story in this month of 2014, as He has promised, UPGRADE has begun! To Lamide’s little one, of course I will be your Godmother, if I won’t be your God mother, who will?! LoL WINK WINK!!

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What makes you a mother?

I wonder what it is about when you don’t have children that make people look at you as if you are irresponsible and most definitely may not know about bringing up a child or caring for one. Others are so insensitive they say this to your face. What makes a mother? Is it by the number of children you have? The quality of life you give them or pure grace given by God to every woman?

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I believe a woman is born with intricate skills to nurture, thus whether you want children or not if you have been trying to have children with no success yet, the moment a baby is placed in your arm, those mother skills play up and you become a mother instantly. Don’t tell anyone they do not have the skills, because if it is your first or 11th child you learn everyday at being a mother.