How did your IVF go? Couple bonding… Adebisi – waiting to take off…

Speaking with Adebisi was exciting as you literarily follow her motions as she gesticulates about her experiences during her IVF procedure. I felt like I was in a movie or present as she spoke….

As the injections progressed, you were to come in for regular checks to take a look at your ovaries and the follicles developing. Going to work normally was tough for me and I had to take a few days off work at one point when I was told to increase dosage as they were not getting expected results. Besides I was just too tired of inventing or fabricating lies to avoid telling anyone I was doing IVF, so I came out to my boss and he allowed me go on an unscheduled leave for three weeks of which I am grateful.

My hubby was my solid rock and pillar as never before were we brought ‘so closer’, the bonding helped a lot as he understood what I was going through even with the pressure of his work and all. Since I loved talking he was a good listener to everything affecting me, all side effects which he wrote down so he could mention in our next doctor’s visit. I was grateful for this as most people say they get a lot of quarrels and a general lack of togetherness at this trying period.

Injections were getting to an end and we were given a last injection to take the night before egg retrieval this will help ripen the eggs and get follicles ready for retrieval. Trepidation started the next day which was the day for egg retrieval as the Doctor explained the procedure and also certain risks and dangers of the procedure. It riled me that he was telling me that and also got me trembling in fear so I spoke the word to relax my nerves and give me peace.

 

Inside the egg retrieval room, I was sedated though I was still talking gibberish, that made the Doctor and nurses laugh while my husband too was there holding my hands to comfort me. Of course, all the gadgets went in and egg retrieval was successful with 12 eggs collected, in a muddled haze I was taking into a recovery room so the anesthesia could wear out. My Doctor was shocked at the number of eggs, he said for my age and all he didn’t believe the number. The IVF Doctors got to work fertilizing my eggs retrieved with my husband’s sperms previously collected and left to fertilize over a period of hours. Fertilized eggs are called embryos and we got 8 that survived the day 5 stipulation, this wait to see how many eggs would survive was stressful and full of anxiety again, we prayed together, gave each other good solace and encouragement until the day 5 we were called to come over for embryo transfer where two good quality embryos of the lot was transferred into my uterus.

 

As if all the nerve racking waits were not enough, after embryo transfer, we were asked to go about our normal lives as we wait for two weeks to ascertain whether the treatment had worked. It was the hardest part of the entire IVF cycle and it tested our faith and love for each other. My husband was a solid rock, I bless God for him, without him I do not know how I would have survived the two weeks which I counted in seconds, minutes, hours, with each breath, perspiration, days and all. I wasn’t the best person to live with at this time but he understood it was hormones and not me.

I kept thinking what was going on in my body; I spoke the word over my womb every time some doubt or tension came up. I had nightmares of all sorts, woke up in the night to pray and bind and loose! I went back to work and it was a welcome distraction but my boss who was so understanding, did not give me too much work, all I did kept me busy and I thought less of the IVF thus tension and stress reduced. Over the weekend though was a totally different ball game!! Every waking moment seemed like an eternity especially Saturdays that I lazed around the house, I could literarily hear the clock’s tick tock, it seemed like an eternity. The first weekend I just want to sleep through out and wake up on the 14^th day in the hospital facing the Doctor for my result. LoL!! Yea IT WAS THAT Bad!!!

To be continued…

WOULD YOU BE MY GODMOTHER?

Last year was a great year for Lamide, but according to her it could have been a better one if she had gotten pregnant with her twins. I share her story with you all today. It is a great testimony of God’s grace.

Lamide underwent IVF in August and it failed. She decided not to go for IVF again. The whole procedure was a bad emotional roller coaster,’ she says (you can say that again). The IVF Blues came and went. We kept talking through it all as I knew she needed the emotional support, and month after month, we spoke she would tell me when the red dragon* surfaces, sometimes we cry, sometimes we laugh about it and just let go.

I went to church one day and Pastor spoke about us fixing our eyes on Jesus, I shared this with her and she told me about a lady who gave a great testimony at the Redeemed Camp who waited twenty years and just had triplets. She said amidst tears the lady told her story of several IVF treatments, miscarriages, two stillbirths and when she was 45 years she just gave up and let it all go. She wanted to live rather than die of heartbreak. And suddenly, God appeared for her when she didn’t even have her mind set on it. She came with two adorable girls and one boy-HER TRIPLETS!!

 

Lamide never stopped talking about her embryo transfer; she still believed she had two babies in her. However, with help and prayers she let go and let God. She threw out all her remaining IVF treatment and immersed herself in work and church. Apart from the occasional regrets that the IVF hospital didn’t call her back for follow up and all, we never really dwelt on it.

Her hubby decided to surprise her with a wonderful Christmas holiday to get over all the stress of the year and rejuvenate, which she told me was swell, great bonding and couple time (wink wink). They had God time too, prayed and handed the whole issue to God and that was it. Of course they came with pictures to show they had fun and loads of shopping which was like great medicine for Lamide. Which girl won’t love all that spoiling!!!

 They got back the first week in January and work started, we were all busy and all, never really had time to talk until I spoke to her just last week and she said her period had started again with the usual delay tactics. I told her to put her mind off it, and over the weekend we chatted over BBM and I asked if the red dragon* had arrived, she said no, and I jokingly told her to take a home pregnancy test, she said she was just not ready for another late period craziness and trepidation nor fret over it.

So we left it at that until she sent me a picture this morning stating – would you be my God mother? I didn’t get it until we spoke later and she told me the home test was positive! Amidst the screams she was able to chip in the gist of how she decided to stop by the pharmacy and buy a digital pregnancy test kit, which she used in the office and she found out that she was indeed pregnant. The kit told her she was 4.5 weeks pregnant and counting back it was around the time they went for their vacation, we both giggled as we said almost together, ‘vacation paid off indeed!!’

Now how wonderful God can be all the time? He made all things beautiful in His time for her. No one knows yet, so I am honoured she gave me permission to share this here, though I am not using her real name anyway…lol…God heard her in all areas He saw the tears the hurt the pain of the IVF and He gave her a perfect gift just at the time she let go.

When you let go and let God, He takes the lead and blesses you with more than you can ever imagine. Now, I see my God as this perfect Gentleman who won’t barge into your life until you allow Him in. Never run your life as if you can, just let go and God will take the lead and bless you with blessings you cannot begin to think or imagine.

Lamide has been in this race for 11 years now, God was waiting for her to let go and the moment she did, He held her hands and is leading the way to fruitfulness. I love this story in this month of 2014, as He has promised, UPGRADE has begun! To Lamide’s little one, of course I will be your Godmother, if I won’t be your God mother, who will?! LoL WINK WINK!!