I have had little sleep over the issue of the abducted girls for I am so horrified when I think they could be like my sister, niece, daughter or even me!! Bad thoughts one might say, but it is the reality of over 200 girls and it’s been over month! Their names were published and this brought me even closer, they are young girls, human beings who are in the proverbial Babylon, subjected to hell on earth! I wake up thinking about these innocent ones and I cannot begin to fathom what it is they are going through.


One day they had breakfast and said, ‘good bye mom, see you later’, and mom said, ‘have a good day at school love. Some might not have remembered to tell them they were loved, they just believed that like every other day, they will be home in a few hours and alas! It has been more than a few days!! We have heard all sorts, they were captured to be used as human shield, they were captured to negotiate with the Government, but who knows what horror they might be going through doing hard labor, being forced to cook and clean and some being molested, raped and tortured.


Most of these girls if not all would be virgins, can you imagine a gang rape being their first experience at sex? Can you imagine the sexual assault? These girls who are between the ages of 13 and 17 most likely being faced with such trauma. How do they survive such or forget it? I can imagine some of the girls, out of fear of being killed, simply because they were bold to fight back from allowing these evil men of the Boko Haram to have their evil ways with them. I can imagine the wickedness with which the criminals would force themselves into the girls, without any form of preparation, most of whom are virgins!


I can imagine these young girls, whom must have thought of their first sexual experience with their own spouses in decades to come, experiencing it now with hardened evil men, terrorists, with men they never bargained to encounter or will never ever want or desire in any way on concrete cold floors of a cursed God forsaken wild forest, an habitat adulterated with machine guns, grenades, bullets, sludge, grief, despair, despondence, wailing and gnashing of teeth and bloodshed.


I remember in the movies where we see little children abducted and forced to slavery, rape and death when the girls fight back refusing to be defiled and then gunned down in a show of power to scare the other ones with just a bullet to the head, or a slash of the throat or a stab in the chest, or even slashes on their bodies and intimate parts. This reality is what we see today in the case of Shekau and his cohorts.


Apart from the trauma, have we thought of the psychological illness, or all forms of infections, HIV, Hepatitis, Venerable Disease like syphilis, gonorrhea and all sorts that these girls potentially face?! How about the physical assault, battery, incarceration, being unkept, not allowed to bath or clean up, no change of clothes, starvation and what have you. Could it be their fault? No? Is it the fault of the Government that fails us over and over again? Is it their insensitivity, nonchalant attitudes and lack of planning.


What are the Legislators doing, how about the executive arm of government? If this had happened in another country will these girls still be missing knowing their location? Who are the sponsors of the Boko Haram? Nothing is being done, the children of our leaders are schooling abroad, and those in Nigeria are under heavy protection. Our leaders are attending functions, some go for parties, have drinks, sleep well and yet our girls are missing!!! When the enemy steals the future of our nation (the Chibok Girls) what do we have left? The old Anthem reads thus…


Nigeria, we hail thee,

Our own dear native land,

Though tribe and tongue may differ,

In brotherhood we stand,

Nigerians all are proud to serve

Our sovereign Motherland.

Our flag shall be a symbol

That truth and justice reign,

In peace or battle honour’d,

And this we count as gain,

To hand on to our children

A banner without stain.

O God of all creation,

Grant this our one request,

Help us to build a nation

Where no man is oppressed,

And so with peace and plenty

Nigeria may be blessed.


You might ask, what do we have left? We can pray, join the group praying, as you pray, picture these girls in bondage, and plead their case before Him as He is the only hope we have. Now it may look to you like nothing is happening, but we will not lose sight of God’s power, cause even when we feel nothing is happening, something is in the spiritual world. We will not be weary; we will keep praying and when He comes through for us, the whole world we see this and we will testify. The book of Romans caps it all well, in Chapter 12 and Verse 12; it says ‘Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.


God bless Nigeria. #BRING BACK OUR GIRLS!!!







I got a visit from a wonderful friend, Omotara who got in sad and almost closed to tears after seeing her Gynecologist, had fun as I would say, because we laughed, cried, shared encouragements and most importantly learned a lot from doing research and sharing doctor notes and diagnosis.  She has been trying to conceive for 12 years now and it’s been one story to the other. She had a Myomectomy surgery and afterwards was told of a condition she has called Adenomyosis.  Now that wasn’t the first time I have heard that name, a friend told me his wife was told same thing two years ago. So I decided to ask my doctor friends about it and also did some research. I thought it would be great info for us to have and learn about.


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Adenomyosis is a condition where the endometrial tissue, which normally lines the uterus, exists within and grows into the muscular wall of the uterus. This happens most often late in your childbearing years especially after having children. However, statistics shows that it is now very common in women who have issues with infertility; it is however not the cause of infertility but could affect it if you have endometriosis as well. Adenomyosis is very different from endometriosis — another condition in which the uterine lining becomes implanted outside the uterus — although women with Adenomyosis often also have endometriosis. The cause of Adenomyosis remains unknown. For women who experience severe discomfort from Adenomyosis, certain treatments can help, but hysterectomy is the only cure.

Another study says Adenomyosis is a condition that can affect a woman’s fertility if it develops during her childbearing years, but research is still preliminary, and questions about the impact of the condition on conception rates and pregnancy risks currently remain unanswered. Women with Adenomyosis have higher miscarriage rates than women without the condition, as much as double the risk of pregnancy loss, and they also appear to have an increased risk of premature labor and abruptio placentae (a condition when the placenta detaches from the uterine wall during pregnancy). Women trying to get pregnant may find that gonadotropin releasing hormone agonists (GnRH-a), such as Lupron, or aromatase inhibitors help reduce symptoms, while preserving and perhaps improving fertility, this is close to what has been prescribed to Omotara.


Women who want to get pregnant may also consider non-hysterectomy surgical options such as cytoreductive surgery, laparoscopic surgery, uterine artery embolization (which shrinks the damage by cutting off the blood flow to the affected area) and endometrial ablation (which reduces or removes the lining of the uterus). A relatively new non-invasive procedure called magnetic resonance-guided focused ultrasound (MRgFUS) — in which a concentrated burst of ultrasound energy destroys damaged cells without harming surrounding tissue — also shows promise as a fertility-restoring treatment for women with Adenomyosis who want to become pregnant.

Omotara has always complained of her bulging tummy which made a lot of people ask her if she was pregnant, that was more painful especially when she was not. She finally understood as we read together some of the symptoms of Adenomyosis which is said to be silent and most times goes undetected except when one is querying some causes of infertility as in her case, these include very heavy menstrual flow, dysmenorrheal which is severe cramping during your periods, such cramps lasts through out your period, in some cases bleeding between periods and pain during intercourse. Most importantly your uterus may double or triple in size. Although you might not know if your uterus is enlarged, you may notice that your lower abdomen seems bigger or feels tender.

Her Doctor told her Adenomyosis is common in women between the ages of 35 and 50 because it is between these ages that women have an excess of estrogen (Child bearing age). There is no known cause, a lot of people just have different theories ranging from the direct invasion of endometrial cells from the surface of the uterus into the muscle that forms the uterine walls; other experts hypothesize that Adenomyosis originates within the uterine muscle from endometrial tissue deposited there when the uterus first formed in the female fetus while a recent theory proposes that bone marrow stem cells may invade the uterine muscle, causing Adenomyosis. I read the risk factor here includes having a uterine surgery like Myomectomy or C-Section during childbirth and middle age.

Although not harmful, the pain and excessive bleeding associated with Adenomyosis can have a negative effect on your lifestyle. You may find yourself avoiding activities that you previously enjoyed because you have no idea when or where you might start bleeding. Painful periods can cause you to miss work and can strain relationships. Recurring pain can lead to depression, irritability, anxiety, anger and feelings of helplessness. That’s why it’s important to seek medical evaluation if you suspect you may have Adenomyosis.

If you experience prolonged, heavy bleeding, chronic anemia may result. When you notice such, it is advisable to see a doctor soon; arm yourself with questions such as how is Adenomyosis diagnosed? How much experience do you have in diagnosing and treating Adenomyosis? Are there any medications I can take to improve my symptoms? What side effects can I expect from medication use? Under what circumstances do you recommend surgery? Will I take a medication before or after surgery? Could my condition affect my ability to become pregnant? Are there any alternative treatments I might try?

Mostly treatments include painkillers, hormonal therapies or the total removal of the uterus if the bleeding is life threatening and one has had children. A good gynecologist will tell you which way to go after diagnosis. It is important to note like I told Omotara that with Adenomyosis, you can still have children as nothing can stop God’s words to manifest in your life only believe. I will definitely be giving you her testimony when she finally has children.

When you want to get pregnant, every month that passes without a positive pregnancy test can seem like a lifetime. Checking yourself (medical checks) is not a lack of faith. Have you had any of these symptoms, have you seen a doctor? What is your diagnosis? What of a second opinion as I told Omotara? Please share your experiences here and don’t forget to share the blog with a friend.

PS: Good to read, using Google you can learn a whole lot, but always confirm with your doctor before using any medication or procedure. Do not take herbal medicines without consulting your doctor.






Lola has been battling with a lot in her mind lately; she wonders where her belief to try IVF starts and her faith in God ends. She does not want to do anything outside the will of God and would love to have her own Kids before she turns 50. A lot of women in her church are not helping with their tale of woes on trusting God fully and not faltering till the very end. Some say it is the worst decision ever to try IVF while others believe spending so much for just one procedure that will not guarantee children is a waste of finances that can be used to further the gospel of truth! My question is, when God has provided this science to give women the hope of having children, how long does one have to wait before trying it out without being over spiritual about it? Let me shift to the case of Shola, Shola didn’t get married on time and remained a virgin until the age of 46 when she finally got married. Before then, she had been having hot flushes and all signs which she never knew where menopause symptoms, they started trying immediately for children and they gave themselves three years to try before going to do IVF, on getting to the IVF Clinic at age 49, the doctors said she was already menopausal and chances where slims, you can trust that all sorts were tried but today she is 60 years old, her husband who wanted children as well left and she is thinking of adoption to fill that ache of motherhood in her heart. When is it okay as a single woman to seek IVF/Artificial insemination as a way of having children before the time clock stops ticking all together? Anyways, this topic will be kept in the oven for another day!

Why won’t a married woman be given the chance at carrying her own child early in life but rather be termed as not having the faith to wait like Sarah, has anyone stopped to consider that the situation in Sarah’s time is totally different from what we have in our day and age; can someone ask God for wisdom before ruining someone else’s life?!!! At her time, women lived to be 400 years, thus at 90 years or a 100 years, she is still considered to be very young hot and sexy?!! Old age has changed since then, we say a 60 year old is getting old, heck even a 45 year old woman is considered old!!

What do I think about this? Please go ahead with IVF if you have settled this within yourself and with God, IT IS NOT A SIN! As long as you believe only God gives children and see IVF as a tool, then the sky is the limit! Learn every word that God says about your situation and speak the word as you go along in whatever procedure you choose. There is no such thing as God saying only a few people will have children on earth, if you so desire, you will. Pray about it and believe that God will make everything work together for your good and your miracle will happen. I also agree it is capital intensive and very emotional, personally, I know a lot of folks fear the injections, but with prayers it is certainly something to consider and give it try now on in future , while you pray, giving thanks that you take delivery of your babies (having faith it will happen naturally). God grant us all wisdom in our peculiar situations. God save us from ‘holier than thou friends’ too!! J