Is she your mother? Issues of weight and infertility

I had a wonderful day with a good friend some months back and we went shopping later on in the day. We went into a shop and she was trying out cloths when another shopper saw our banter smiled and asked my friend who is a year older than me, ‘is she your mother?’. I froze…almost burst into tears, I was sad and became distant and wanted nothing more than to get out of the shop; yea we all smiled at the silly statement from the clueless lady but I did not try any cloths as I didn’t want to undress in front of any of them.


The picture shows me and my friend who was called my daughter! LoL!!

Loads of other people have commented on my ‘weight’ over the years; my Doctor told me to lose some wight as I was way above BMI, however, I had no issues with my blood sugar, neither was my cholesterol high! According to her, I am as strong and healthy as ever, except for my BMI. The Doctor said the irony was that she just saw a skinny lady before me who had so many complications and would give anything to be as healthy as I was. I give God glory for that, as I do not take this for granted. I went out one day with hubby and someone said,’Alfa ru ijo sanra’, it means the congregation is getting fatter while the Pastor is losing weight’. I laughed it off at the time but it hurt.

Thus I decided to do it, like my friend called it, drop it for life! Yes, as we speak I have reduced my food portions! And I am doing my exercises(though stressful I must say) but  I am moving on without fail, God help me.

This brings me to weight and fertility. I have heard from good sources that for some people actually being over weight can cause infertility issues. So, if you are on the big side, do get your self checked to ascertain of your weight is not the issue here. If you have a BMI of above 28, your chances of getting pregnant is greatly reduced.

A friend told me recently that she was diagnosed with PCOS (poly-cystic ovarian syndrome), one of the more common causes of infertility in Nigeria today according to a Gynecologist, this she said was connected to her gaining and subsequently not being able to lose weight. In other words, the very thing that is causing fertility problems for her may also be why she is having trouble losing weight or maintaining a healthy BMI.

I am sure there are other things associated with weight and fertility, feel free to share so everyone can learn. First things first is to calculate your bmi, I use my fitness pal to do this, so you can join here and use there resources – – I can assure you that you will enjoy it.

Don’t get me wrong folks, I still believe that big is sexy and fabulous!!!


**Picture here is my friend Ayo, the sexy diva!!!




Mother’s Day Blues..




What do you do when you don’t have children yet and you have to go to church on Mother’s day? For years, Titi avoided church on Mother’s day because her mum died on that day and since she doesn’t have children yet, a lot of the women gave insensitive comments. They said things like, “This time next year, you will be celebrating Mother’s day with your own children and they said this every year, others will give advice like why don’t you try and adopt, I am praying for you, have you considered IVF, what is your Doctor’s diagnosis. Oh! For want of a better day to bombard someone with insensitive questions! So, to shun these insensitive comments that were said mostly by the women from her church, she decided it was best for her to stay at home.  While at home, all she does was cry and beat herself up; this is detrimental to anyone’s health.

We all need to get over this feeling of being attacked by ‘insensitive’ people because when one looks at it, they never really meant to be insensitive in the first place, most of them say these things out of ignorance, innocence and real empathy. All we need do is gently explain to whoever, be it your church members, friends or in laws the way you feel when they say these things to you. This will free you to exercise your faith believing that God will give you your heart’s desire. One more thing you can do is use mother’s day to go shopping for your baby items, shopping does a woman a whole lot of good…lol…so why don’t you use the opportunity to buy cute things for your baby or babies as you desire and have fun this mother’s day?  See yourself on this day as God sees you, as mothers already, because His will for us is to be fruitful and multiply. If you look through God’s eyes, you will see yourself as He sees you-fruitful, pregnant, and whatever good thing you want to see of yourself. I pray God will give you the boldness to face Mother’s day with joy as you embrace it as your own day, because you are a mother! You are indeed one day closer to your miracle. Happy Mother’s day people!